Monday, 21 November 2011

AT CROSS-ROADS WITH GOD'S DESIGN

Look young ,feel young.   I believe the design of the world by the God or who-so-ever is the creator is optimum . Human-beings have tried to improve upon the God's design , to satisfy some of the social needs , primarily cosmetic needs.The greying of hair , as the age advances is one such design parameter , which has not found favour with homo-sapiens. We all want : firstly--to look young and secondly -- to feel young , if possible.
 Forever young and immortal.   In an old Indian story ,  Alexander the Great , felt sad one day .He thought-- ' even though I am the conqueror of the world , I will grow old and then die like a common man.What is the use of all heroism and victories , if I can exploit the gains of my victories for a limited period only'.This dissatisfaction and search for a solution ended when he met an Indian hermit who revealed him the secret of  immortality  and permanent youth ,   There was a pond of nectar nearby , if only Alexander could go there and take it , he will live for ever.
    He rushed to the pond and when he was about to drink the water there , he heard a voice, it  cautioned him to wait . He saw a very old crocodile coming out of water  slowly . Later he learnt  , it was 5000 years old , with his limbs nearly lifeless but yet alive. He could not die , although he wanted to .
   He did not want to be immortal with physically ineffective limbs . He rushed back and once again met the hermit and  said, " to be immortal is of no use ,if you are not young. Could you direct me to a pond which offers both ? " The hermit obliged and Alexander rushed to another pond further away . He reached there and was about to drink the coveted nectar , when he heard lot of shouting going on , as if people were fighting . He saw 7--8 handsome young persons fighting for favours of a young pretty girl. They told him , they were all from  the same family ; great-grandfather down to great--grandson . Here in this scenario a great-grandfather was competing with his great-grandson , both infatuated with the youth of same pretty girl. The story ends here , Such situations do not arise normally in our world ;  optimally designed by the God.

      Now human-beings live longer and with good health . They naturally want to look young also . Artificial aids to look young are available in plenty; but there are higher needs in the hierarchy of needs . This realisation  accelerated  ladies onslaught for equality in all facets of life . They question God's design as they feel they are at a great disadvantage.A beginning was made when women athletes wanted to postpone the menses cycle ,when it clashed with the sports events .

     Women have realised that one of the feminine features due to which they are at distinct disadvantage as compared to men is that they have to complete motherhood's biological functions before the onset of menopause.Thus the major portion of youth of liberated women , the prime period of one's life is unproductively ( as for as career enhancement is concerned) utilised , except for reproduction of human race. The solution can be : why not delay menopause and be able to reproduce till 60 ? This will enable a lady to build her career to the highest pinnacle till late fifties and reap the gains of her enhanced career for the rest of her life , just like men.There-after she is free to indulge into motherhood business ie. motherhood to be achieved as late as possible and may be after retirement .The good news is : its feasibility has been explored by the medical science ; it is possible,but there is a need to analyse its social implications.
   Marriage fulfills an important social need of human-beings ie.it provides each partner a compulsive friend , to overcome the loneliness of the incorrigible individuals who by nature can not be friendly in social circles. Even among birds and anmals there are species where they live as a couple.The attachment and love for eachother has been a subject of love stories , where the death of one spouse affects the other.To share life together as husband and wife or as a couple, has evolved slowly as human civilisation developed . In the present era with the concept of liberation , the need for separate identity among women , who used to be a mere shadow of the husband is on the increase even  in Oriental societies.Gone are the days when a women used to identify her success with that of her husband .The present day lady is rightly fighting for her identity and her own success in life and wants to contribute on her own in the society. If one accepts marriage as an essential institution, it must be noted that children are the essential cement which keep the bond alive.Many a time, minor differences and fights among the parents crop up and get resolved as both parents realise the necessity to stay together for the sake of proper development of children . God forbid . the liberated women in search of more success in life delay motherhood till 50-60s , the absence of child in the home would deprive the marriage institution of an essential nutrient which cements the marriage.

   A society becomes richer with integrated development of all the three ingredients : a liberated woman who is successful and who has her own identity ,  a happy home with well cared, satisfied children and a happy marriage of mind and body between the two. The impact of delayed marriage or delayed motherhood on society  and its effects need to be analysed with a view to check on uncontrolled   research , to alter the God's designed life style. .
                                                                                                                           (CS Arora 1998)  

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